It’s been a minute since the last blog post as we’ve been doing much more video posting. But today, there was just too much heaviness in our hearts to put this all in a video. We hope you will read it with your hearts more than your minds.❤️
"...The point there, according to the sponsor of one such bill in Oklahoma, IS TO CREATE INEQUALITY in marriage rights between opposite- and same-sex couples and invite a legal challenge that could be taken to the Supreme Court to overturn Obergefell... Two justices on the Supreme Court have openly stated that they want to overturn Obergefell, and the Court has moved to the right since 2015."
Lambda Legal Advises: "...If there are things that you can do to secure your relationships, your family status and to take other protective measures, please do those things. Don’t be lulled into complacency by our informed and reasonably expert speculation about what may happen.”
Our fellow Americans,
We realize that for so many of you, Same Sex Marriage rights are a minor, if any, blip on the radar right now, especially after yesterday’s BIG NEWS that the PINOfiles (president in name only) have now aligned the US with Russia and N. Korea - in addition to trying to convince the American people that Ukraine is a dictatorship - all the while claiming “King-dom” or is it Don? 🤦♀️ On that note, we wouldn't be at all surprised if sanctions toward the US are forthcoming (because of the collusion) and if that happens, forget about egg prices, you’ll be lucky to have well, anything. So, we ask you to read this if not out of empathy, than out of concern for your own rights (whatever color, creed or sexual orientation you may be), because this is how THIS works - whatever you choose to call it: Authoritarianism, Fascism, Oligarchy, Religious Nationalism… Once they've come for the least of us, they WILL come for the rest of us - you or someone you love: The elderly, the disabled, the poor, the liberals, the woke, the snowflakes, the Methodists, the Mormons - Anyone who doesn't fit their mold of a perfect human and share their specific mindset, will be disposable. Sound familiar at all? (It's actually already in play.)
History has proved this fact time and time again, and yet we are ALLOWING it to happen right under our noses. In case you haven’t noticed, the propaganda machine is working overtime and the Kool-aid is flowing like a chocolate fountain at Christmas time. Even mainstream media has backed away from the real narrative, which is why it’s important to find reliable sources like Heather Cox Richardson, People on Substack, Foreign News Sources, Decoding Fox News, Politics Girl, Katie Couric, Dan Rather, Steady at substack, etc. We’re attaching some recommended sources here.
Table of Reliable News Sources
We know that there is no way to convince any of you of anything. But if just one of you changes your mind or sees something differently because of us, it will have been worth it. We always prided ourselves on having friends from all walks of life, but we would be lying if always being the ones to educate others on how nice and normal we are despite the fact that we’re lesbians, or on lgbtq history doesn’t get really fucking old. Kind of like how sometimes convincing people that cancer survivors lives are never the same, also gets old. BUT I DIGRESS…
The ONE THING we’d like to try to help you and others see is that we are your really good, bake you cookies and make you soup kind of neighbors, we are your daughters, sisters, friends, and fellow humans. We still matter in this world and we will still exist, whether you choose to see us or not. We harm no-one by being ourselves, and by being together, by being married to one another. We pay our taxes - actually MORE as a married couple - we abide by the laws, we believe in God, we donate to charities, we stand up for others, we cry with our friends, we hold them when they cry, we mourn the loss of them as we did this morning when another dear friend died of cancer. We love you Frank! 💛
Oh, and in case you’re wondering (since everyone these days is so preoccupied about body parts, bathrooms and deviant behavior) we are SO deviant after 23 years together, that when we go to bed at night, we SLEEP! 💤
FOR US, this undermining of the federal marriage rights granted to us in 2015, and solidified by the Respect for Marriage Act are one of the things we've been afraid of losing all along. Think about that: We needed the permission of our government to marry up until 2015. Losing these rights also means the loss of 1100+ federal rights granted just by being a married person in the US. And, things will revert back to what was then, blatant discrimination in the areas of healthcare, housing, hiring/employment, hate crimes legislation, and so much more - that my friends, is already starting.
RECENT HISTORY LESSON: When SCOTUS reversed Roe V. Wade, Thomas opened the door to also reverse same sex marriage - even though he himself is part of an “inter-racial” marriage that had to be sanctioned by a supreme court decision. CAN YOU SAY HYPOCRITE? 🤦♀️ May we also remind you that we have been together for 23 YEARS - that’s longer than most marriages last - and we would have been married ALL of those years except the “laws of the land” didn’t allow it, even though we were law abiding tax paying citizens, who just happened to be gay. Anyone will tell you that what we have together is a love that most people never find in their lifetime. Not trying to compare or make anyone jealous, we’re just asking ourselves if you can say the same about your marriages? Or do you simply take that right for granted? Because we do not. Even if you take away all of our rights, we still have the one thing you can’t take from us. Love. Always love.🖕
We have spent many years agreeing to disagree. With friends, family and those who disagree or simply don’t see these situations for what they are. For it is impossible to walk in another’s shoes. Our hearts are broken today for others as much as ourselves. 💔 We and so many others are NOT ok anymore. Our LGBTQ+ and especially our trans friends are drowning, our cancer friends are terrified, our women friends are like WTF, and our friends of color are wary AF. Some days it feels as if we’re breathing under water - without all those cute fishies swimming by. So the next time you tell your kids or your friends “don’t worry” or “everything will be ok, it always is” or “it can’t stay this bad” or whatever you say to make yourselves feel better, instead consider asking them to share their burden of fears with you, and then find out how you can support them instead of saying the kinds of things we’ve heard in the last few months…
“That won’t happen” or “They can’t do that” in regard to marriage rights (several people, many ages, mostly white)
“Well, you girls are both white so they’re not going to mess with you [as a couple].” (southern white woman, age 62)
To that we said, well as soon as your white AND a lesbian, no one sees white anymore, they just see LESBIAN.
“It might be better than you think.” (white woman, 80)
“You haven’t lost any rights yet.” (military vet, white male, 79) - Last I checked we’re also women!
“Anyone who lives in this country who doesn’t realize how good they have it here [because everyone has it good here], should just get TF out.” (midwest, white male, 60)
Anyone seeing a pattern? There is a saying that, “If you’ve never had a supreme court case decide if you have the same rights as others, then you have privilege.” There’s another one that says, “If you ever wondered what you would have done during the time of the Holocaust, the Civil Rights Movement, Slavery, or Stonewall, you’re doing it right now.”
If any of this bothers you, even the tiniest bit, please start speaking out, calling your representatives, posting on your timelines and sharing posts of others who are brave enough to speak up for themselves and others. There is power in numbers and many of us could really use your support. It's also okay when people ask you how you're doing to say, "Not okay, what's happening is hurting many people, like...(be specific)."
America is experiencing what is known as "Collective Trauma" right now, which can be passed down the generations without even knowing it. Think about your grandmother who was a child of the depression: Did she "save" everything for a "rainy day" or use the phrase "waste not, want not?" Did she have a fear of financial insecurity? Use coupons for everything? Did your parents also have these traits? Do you? These kinds of societal traumas can become part of the fabric of family/ancestral DNA for as many as 7 generations - even when the catalyst is long gone. We're already seeing that Covid was one recent example - many more kids have anxiety today than in pre-covid generations.
And if this emotional plea still isn’t enough for you, here are few other facts of note:
Because this is also a cancer blog, Cancer funding and research is at this moment are almost non-existent and the man in charge of the nation's healthcare doesn’t believe in, well almost any kind of modern science. But he does believe in brain worms - maybe they can eat cancer?
As mentioned, aligning the US with Russia and North Korea (aside from the obvious concern) puts us in jeopardy of being sanctioned right along with them.
Of course, making enemies out of our closest allies is nothing to sneeze at either.
Every American born in America is a “birthright citizen,” and in the words of the new SOS can be deported, “We can send them, and he will put them in his jails,” Rubio said of migrants of all nationalities detained in the United States. “And, he’s also offered to do the same for dangerous criminals currently in custody and serving their sentences in the United States EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE US CITIZENS OR LEGAL RESIDENTS” Yes, he was speaking about “criminals”, but the definition of criminal has become quite a bit broader since Jan 20th. Dontcha think? There was a recent video published with Steve Bannon where he was gleefully hoping for protests so protestors could be arrested (as criminals)…
On that note, we have heard from reliable sources that some trans persons passports are being kept and not returned. Why are we so concerned about trans rights, if we aren’t trans? Because they are also our friends and our friends kids! This is bigger than all of us.
Speaking of identification and citizenship, HR22 aka the SAVE ACT is designed to protect the integrity of elections, but it could negatively impact the voting rights of some women who have changed their names since marriage, as well as others with legal name changes that are not reflected on their birth certificates or social security cards. BTW - Voting as an immigrant is already illegal and happens very rarely.
We hope you don’t live in a natural disaster-prone state! FEMA funding has been obliterated - so the natural disasters will have to take a hike for now. 🙄
For all their talk about eliminating big government and allowing the states to do their own governing - there are lots of threats (and some actions now) to defund ANY state that defies the new regime. That doesn’t sound like states rights to us. 🤔
Speaking of big government, the 1st Bro - after cutting crucial programs and funding - has now secured several huge government contracts and also has access to a good portion of YOUR personal and even financial data. A good question to ask is: Why does a billionaire tech mogul need all of your social security and bank info., and what pray-tell could he do with it?
Widespread hate crimes are on the rise and being normalized, as are suicides in marginalized populations. Thanks to the Chief Narc for unleashing the hate in America.
Measles is back in the US, Bird flu is now killing way more than chickens, and there are currently no less than 5 respiratory illnesses making the rounds (Covid, flu, RSV, Pneumonia, Pertussis/Whooping Cough) - but the CDC is too busy scrubbing “sexual orientation” and “LGBTQ+” references from their website to let you know + funding cuts. The AMA however IS picking up the slack by posting on YouTube Daily.
To date, more unqualified people have been selected for top leadership positions than in any other administration. That’s not an opinion, that is a fact based on minimum job requirements.
BTW - Diversity, equity and inclusion practices have helped more WHITE WOMEN (many of them pregnant), than any other class. They also help disabled people, disabled veterans, the elderly (ageism), kids with learning disabilities and yes, LGBTQ+ people like us. So basically everyone except healthy white males, which is why they are PISSED and are clawing their power back regardless of the cost to literally EVERYONE else.
Did you know that Blue state taxes fund a good portion of the “socialist” programs, which are USED MORE BY RED STATE POPULATIONS?
Did you also know that RED states are the biggest recipients of aid, funding and “social” programs”? Look it up.
On that topic, even with all the funding freezes, the GOP senators and GOVs are simply cozying up to the PINOfiles and asking for exceptions. Easy peasy.
We could go on, and on, and on, but at this point we simply request that you start reading with genuine interest in finding out the facts and other perspectives. Further we are asking that each of you who reads this stands up for one other person in your life, whether they be a cancer survivor or a LGBTQ person or a person of color or an immigrant who has been here for 30 years. If each one of you is brave enough to speak out, even once, our voices might be heard. Call your legislators - the 5 calls app is great for this or better yet, the white house switchboard number is 202-224-3121
It’s not too late today, but soon, the real America might be unrecognizable.
We get it. Being on the right side of history is exhausting. But considering the alternative? I'll take exhausted if it means we get to keep our freedoms. ALL OF THEM! Right now, that is NOT the trajectory we are on.
CCnDoc ✌️❤️💩
Let us be very clear. This letter is our opinion and our personal experience as well as gathered facts (CC is an old-school journalist by degree which means she checks her facts). Thus, it is not open for rebuttal or debate. Plenty of other posts for that, but not this one. Those of you who want to share your or similar stories here and add to the narrative and put a face on this current situation please do. OR if you want to like, share or express sympathy or empathy, you are welcome. BUT, If you attempt to discount our lived experience in anyway, you will quite literally be blocked - and possibly in person as well as social media. Tread lightly. Think wisely. We wish you well, but not on our timeline. You know who you are. 🫵
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